Rapes have become so common these days – I hope we don’t come to a situation where the society becomes complacent and accepts it as quite normal and makes no effort to address the issues.
The worst of these cases was what happened in Delhi a couple of days ago. A girl beaten mercilessly in a moving bus and then gang-raped.
What is the cause of so many rapes being committed – other than slack implementation of the law?
Did we have so many rapes happening 20-30 years ago? Or is it because of the communication / media revolution that we now come to know about the cases being reported? I do not know the answer.
But I know this – Women – have a come a long way in the last 2 decades. Their thought process has changed. They’ve started questioning the norms. They have started coming out of their houses, they are educated and financially independent. I can go on and on. Gone are the days when they used to be confined to the four walls of the house, taking orders from their parents, in-laws, male siblings, completely dependent on their parents/spouses for everything. They are in every aspect equal to men. And that’s where the problem lies.
Men – most of them
probably are still where they were 100 years ago. They still haven’t been able to come to terms with the new age women. Their dominance is being challenged. Patriarchy is being challenged. Their ego’s are being hurt. These kind of men see rape as a tool to ‘show the girl her place’. Its also the reason why rape victims are shamed. Their characters questioned. Rejected by the society. Probably even their relatives and friends stay away from them. In a lot of cases even their parents too do the same.
More policing and convictions will make a difference only to an extent that perpetrators will not do it because of fear, and not because its wrong. The day policing goes down – they’ll be back at it. We need massive social reforms in this country if we really want to address this problem. We need to teach the girls to assert their rights and at the same time we need to teach the boys that girls are not commodities and that just like them they are human beings who are equal. And this we have to start with the children while they are still young.